One girls opinion

Okay I didn’t expect anyone to read what I wrote in my first post or any post thereafter so I’m coming out the gate with one of my hottest takes. I feel like a hater… but it’s how I feel.

Some of them are just alright, while others are borderline making my friend’s lives worse. I want so much more than “alright” for them because: my friends are extraordinary, I think everyone deserves an extraordinary relationship, and I am worried they are settling for much less than they deserve. And the friends that have gotten out of these meh relationships are all the better for it. I care about my friends so much and I want them to have the very best.

I keep this opinion to myself for obvious reasons, who am I to speak on someone else’s relationship. I am also the chronically single friend of my friend groups, and I understand how my opinion on the subject would not be wanted. Part of me thinks it’s a me issue, to have this strong of a feeling about every single one of my friends significant others. But then I actually found someone that did meet my expectations of how my friends should be treated in a relationship.

When I see them together, it feels like a glimpse into something rare. It’s a completely different relationship dynamic than anything I had ever seen before and reenforces my belief that everyone can and deserves to feel the same.

I put a lot of pressure on my own relationships because I am so critical (critical sounds too harsh but I can’t think of another word) of others. If I’m criticizing my friend for settling I can’t turn around and settle myself. I know that these are complicated situations and everyone views this stuff differently dependent on so many contributing factors. But for me, I feel no desire to be in a relationship unless it is of the caliber I’m setting for others, which is also why I’m happily single and am willing to stay that way. Staying single is also the easy way out for me, but that’s a story for another day 🙂